Am I Good Enough?

*Spoiler, yes you are!*

Whether we’re questioning our relationships, career choices or whatever life throws at us, it can sometimes become overwhelming and affect our mental space. A lot of this worry stems from our thoughts. What we envision for ourselves may not be the reality we’re living in at the moment. Making us frustrated and impatient. If only it was as easy to stop overthinking as it is to start, right?!

But it’s understandable when unwanted thoughts begin to enter our minds, we start to doubt ourselves. And as soon as that happens, our self confidence is compromised. As someone who has been down this road before, I thought making this post would benefit some (including myself) on how to transform negative thinking into bettering our well-being.

It’s not easy when you feel like there’s something or someone holding you back. A lot of the time this battle is going on in your mind, but the self doubt demon will make you believe otherwise.

In some cases there may be a certain person or group of people who are actually stunting your potential and growth. If this sounds familiar, I suggest you find ways to limit the communication of your goals to them. Toxic people can drain your energy, make you feel inferior and generally ruin the good vibes you’ve got going on.

When someone is against you and speaks down on what you want to achieve, it can impact you negatively in more ways than one. Protect your energy. I know it can be difficult to detach parts of yourself from someone who has been in your life for a long period of time. Whether a family member or not, you’ve got to recognise those who do not have your best interest at heart. Bad energy is bad energy. Period! I plan to discuss toxic traits in people in a more detailed post so look out for that on my blog.

So, how do we tackle the battle that’s going on in our minds then? How do we transform negative thinking into bettering our well-being? It’s not easy to break out of certain habits, but the more we try to do so, the better we will feel, so I outlined these below:

Stop comparing yourself to others. You’ve probably heard this said a multitude of times but, it is so important towards a healthy state of mind. I think a lot of this comes from external factors, social media being a major one. So, you’ll go on the timeline and see what other people have or what lifestyles they promote. Unintentionally making you feel like you haven’t got your life in order. Which is false. You do! You’re just on a different journey to the next person. Your destination is most likely different too. It may take some time but, learning to love and embrace the path you’re on can realign your focus back onto you.

Be present in the moment. We should find time to remind ourselves that each day is a blessing. To be healthy and alive is something many of us take for granted. Dedicating time everyday, preferably in the morning to start our day, to be thankful for what we do have and not focus on what we don’t will immediately help our way of thinking.

Stop over-analysing. I hold my hands up to being guilty to this. It’s easier said than done to just allow certain situations to run their course. But when we want something to go a specific way and it doesn’t, this can be frustrating. So we start to question what went wrong, what we should have done differently, etc. Instead, we should learn to not hold on to something that was not meant for us. Let go. Emotionally and mentally let go.

If for example, you applied for a job role and weren’t successful, do not go over all the possible reasons of why you didn’t get it. Yes reflect on this, but only briefly. Start to shift your thinking instead; “This job position wasn’t right for me anyways.” “I may not realise it now, but not getting that role has opened doors to other opportunities.” The same can be applied to other life situations, when we stop over-analysing, we allow room for encouraging thoughts to enter our minds instead.

Reaffirm motivational thoughts. If we’re constantly thinking we’re not good enough, then we will eventually start to believe in those lies. So instead, we should speak and think positively, complimenting ourselves to elevate our mood. “I am enough.” “I am happy in this moment.” “I am in control.” Our words are powerful, even if we’re not feeling our best, a friendly choice of words can uplift us.

Manifesting your goals. When we manifest amazing things to come into our lives, there is no reason why we shouldn’t receive those amazing things. For example, you believe you are going to be successful in your chosen career, with that positive mindset anything is possible. In addition to putting in the effort, and showing yourself you are good enough, you will definitely attract the positive energy that you are putting out. A reminder that your journey is not a race, nor a competition. Be present and happy in the moment and reap the rewards when the times comes.

Love Yourself. Unconditionally. You don’t have to judge the mistakes you’ve made or be hard on yourself. You’re human and not the only one who goes through moments you’re not particularly proud of. If you need to take time out for yourself then do it! Self care is just as important. Whether you decide to exercise, go for a walk or even meditate, do something that you know will have a positive impact on your mood and inevitably your mind too.

So like I said at the start, you ARE good enough. Honestly if not more than good! You possess value and worth that no one else has. You’re special in your own way and have no limits to how far you can reach in this life.

Let me know if this helped any over-reactive minds, and also share with me some other ways that help you to overcome any self doubt or overthinking too!

-Seraphina